| Saying Goodbye |
By Clare Selley and Deborah Butler |
| ISBN: 9 781857 411133 |
| Saying Goodbye offers in-depth advice and guidance for adults about how to help children and young people deal with an expected death in the family. The book includes detailed sections on telling the children, questions children may ask, ways to encourage communication between adults and children, creating lasting memories together and dealing with death.
Saying Goodbye will be of great help to adults going through this most difficult and painful time with children. It will also be a useful resource for professionals working with pre- and post-bereaved families. The price of the book will enable organizations to buy in the book and give them out to families. Generous discounts are available on bulk purchases.
Saying Goodbye has been written by experienced specialists from the balloons charity. (www.balloons-devon.org.uk)
The book has been produced with financial help from the NHS and the Lottery.
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| It’s OK to be Sad |
By Margaret Collins |
| ISBN: 978-1-4129-1825-1 |
| An activity book to help children in the 4-9 age groups to manage loss, grief or bereavement. Using stories about 20 different life events children are encouraged through creativity to explore the range of their feelings, express those feelings, encourage empathy towards others and learn through the demonstration that loss is a common experience for all of us. Usable in a one to one or group situation and comes with a CD to encourage creativity of usage for the supporter. |
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| Sad Isn’t Bad |
By Michaelene Mundy |
| ISBN: 978-0-87029-321-4 |
| A book that assists parents, teachers and other caring adults to assist the child they support to understand their grief from a very basic viewpoint. It explores positive and less-constructive ways of demonstrating grief and provides some simple tools to assist young people staying in control of this strong emotion. A good guide book about grief for young children dealing with loss. |
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| Mad Isn’t Bad |
By Michaelene Mundy |
| ISBN: 978-0-87029-331-3 |
| A book that assists parents, teachers and other caring adults to assist the child they support to understand their anger from a very basic viewpoint. It explores positive and less-constructive ways of demonstrating anger and provides some simple tools to assist young people staying in control of this strong emotion. |
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| The Forgotten Mourners |
By Sister Margaret Pennels & Susan C Smith |
| ISBN: 1-85302-264-0 |
| Clear and concise guidance in short format on how children grieve, what they need, what adults can do, what schools and teachers can do and looks at different ways of working with the bereft child. Easy to read and makes good sense. |
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| Then, Now and Always |
By Julie A Stokes |
| ISBN: 0-9539123-5-3 |
| Based on theory, research and practice, this book presents the accumulated experience and wisdom of a community bereavement service for children who are faced with the consequences of a family death. It presents creative ideas about how to facilitate the grieving process, cope with difficult feelings, preserve important memories and share experiences with other bereaved families. |
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| The Lonely Tree |
By Nicholas Halliday |
| ISBN: 978-0-9539459-8-6 |
| This is a beautiful and moving story following the first year of the life of an evergreen tree growing in the heart of the ancient oak woodland of the New Forest. The evergreen is befriended by the oldest oak which has lived for hundreds of years and has many a story to share of his lifetime. When winter arrives all of the oak trees must go to sleep, but of course evergreens never sleep. Finally after a long, lonely and cold winter, spring brings both sadness and joy to the little tree. A simple story of the life and death process via nature. |
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| Teenie Weenie in a Too Big World |
By Margot Sunderland |
| ISBN: 978-0-86388-460-3 |
| A cleverly written and beautifully illustrated book that tells the story through imaginative use of metaphor, or a critter named Teenie Weenie who is overwhelmed by life. It feels so insignificant and vulnerable that it shrinks, hides in a hole and reflects on why bother existing at all. Teenie Weenie is found in its hiding place by another strange creature who invites it to tea. Firstly this creature has to reassure Teenie Weenie that when they are together they will feel stronger than when they are alone. Teenie Weenie leaves his hole and other creatures join them. Together they address the challenges Teenie Weenie faced before it shrank and Teenie Weenie learns to recognise that when its feels bad it is because it is spending too much time alone with its thoughts. |
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| A Nifflenoo called Never Mind |
By Margot Sunderland |
| ISBN: 9 780863884962 |
| A clever book to help demonstrate the usefulness of sharing feelings. Never Mind always carries on whatever happens! Each time something horrible happens to him, he is very brave and simply says, Never Mind. He meets with all kinds of set-backs, bullying and disappointments but each time he just tucks his feelings away and carries on with life. However, he becomes so full of bottled-up feelings that after a time he gets stuck in a hedge. In addition, some of these feelings start to leak out of him in ways that hurt others. Luckily, he happens upon a bogwert who helps him to understand that his feelings do matter and should not be ignored. Never Mind then learns how to express his feelings and stand up for himself. |
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| Helping Children who Bottle Up their Feelings |
By Margot Sunderland |
| ISBN: 9 780863 884573 |
| A resource to support professionals who are working with young people to encourage emotional literacy and catharsis. Provides evidence for the young person in the self-destruction that occurs when feelings are just bottled-up. Full of wonderful exercises that can be utilised for all age groups. Is accompanied with a storybook called ‘A Nifflenoo called Never Mind’. |
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| The Frog who Longed for the Moon to Smile |
By Margot Sunderland |
| ISBN: 978 0 86388 495 5 |
| A cleverly written story designed to assist young people who are stuck and waiting for one thing in particular to happen as the rest of the world passes them by. Full of amazing metaphor and beautifully illustrated. |
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| How we Die |
By Sherwin Nuland |
| ISBN: 0-7011-6277-5 |
| This book is intended to help people explore the reality of death itself. The author has the experience of being a surgeon for over 30 years. It looks at the causes and different types of death associated with certain illness. Written with clarity this is an unsentimental investigation into an inevitable human condition and will help those whose death is more imminent to work towards as positive release as possible. |
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| On Death and Dying |
By Elisabeth Kubler-Ross |
| ISBN: 0 422 75490 0 |
| A classic, based on Kubler-Ross’s model re the five stages of anger: Denial and Isolation / Anger / Bargaining / Depression / Acceptance. Written with warmth and compassion providing a useful frame for those beginning to explore bereavement. |
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| The Anatomy of Bereavement |
By Beverley Raphael |
| ISBN: 9 780415 094542 |
| A handbook for the caring professions which offers a comprehensive and systematic survey of its subject. Beverley Raphael combines a scholarly approach with awareness that bereavement is a unique experience for each individual. |
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| Wenny Has Wings |
By Janet Lee Carey |
| ISBN: 978-0-689-86759-0 |
| A beautiful story told through the eyes of a boy who was in an accident with his sister. He was seriously injured but his sister died. Over the next few years Will writes a diary to his sister. This book gives amazing insight into the depth of feeling a child will feel and how intricately deep his coping methods are, which eventually after the birth of his next sibling, his parents are able to understand. |
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| Supporting Young People Coping with Grief, Loss and Death |
By Deborah Weymont & Tina Rae |
| ISBN: 9 781412 913126 |
| A user-friendly book that emphasises the importance of the development of emotional literacy skills. The focus on death and loss and the process of grieving is central to this course. This book provides all of the supporting materials and comes with a DVD. This book was based on research with teenagers and its aim is to provide students, aged 11-18 with an opportunity to understand grief, loss and death, recognise, manage and express the range of feelings associated with grief, loss and death. To learn more about the afterlife beliefs, death rituals and funeral customs of major world religions and to promote mental health and resilience. |
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| Helping Children to Build Self-Esteem |
By Deborah M. Plummer |
| ISBN: 978 1 84310 488 9 |
| A superb resource. Full of photocopiable activities to use when helping children and young people build self-esteem. Suitable for use with children aged 7 – 11. Again, can be used on an individual or group format. |
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| A Volcano in My Tummy |
By Eliane Whitehouse and Warwick Pudney |
| ISBN: 978-0-86571-349-9 |
| A book to support professionals in working with young people who have issues managing their anger. Useful up until the age of 10. Full of photocopiable activities that can be used on a one-to-one or in a group scenario. Ideal for teachers also. |
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| Emotional Healing and Self-Esteem |
By Mark Pearson |
| ISBN: 9 781843 102243 |
| How can we build children's self-esteem and sense of well being? This book aims to guide teachers, youth workers, counsellors and parents through a range of accessible personal development exercises for children and adolescents, introducing relaxation, visualisation and mediation skills. |
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| The Tunnel |
By Anthony Browne |
| ISBN: 978-1-4063-1329-1 |
| A brother and sister who are very different are forced to spend time together. They discover a tunnel and the boy without feeling or thought for his sister, enters the tunnel leaving her frightened and alone. Eventually after gathering her strength, she follows him only to find herself in a scary forest. She knows she has to find her brother no matter how scared she may be and eventually finds him, but he has turned to stone. In her grief she holds him and cries and slowly he turns back into her brother but he has changed in the knowing she was there for him. |
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| Through the Magic Mirror |
By Anthony Browne |
| ISBN: 978-1-4063-2628-4 |
| A story about a little boy who is fed up with the world the way it is, only to realise that when things change it’s not always for the best and that there is a comfort in familiarity. However, change can also be weirdly wonderful. (Junior school age.) |
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| Voices in the Park |
By Anthony Browne |
| ISBN: 978-0-552-54564-8 |
| A cleverly written short story from four perspectives to help demonstrate difference of opinion and encourage discussion. Four different voices tell the story of the same walk in the same park. Simply written but deeply thought-provoking. |
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| When Someone Dies: How Schools Can Help Bereaved Students |
By Dwaine Steffes, CRUSE Bereavement Care |
| ISBN: 0 900321 10 5 |
| This book is a guide for teachers on how to help students in this age group who have been bereaved and how to react when a death occurs in a school community. It explains the common emotional responses to grief and its likely effects on young people of different age groups. It suggests how teachers should act when a member of the student’s family dies and what to do when the death involves a student or member of school staff. A final section suggests procedures to follow when accidents happen on school trips or in the school itself. |
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| Interventions with Bereaved Children |
By Susan C. Smith and Sister Margaret Pennells |
| ISBN: 1-85302-285-3 |
| A book to enhance practical and compassionate responses for those working with bereaved children. Twenty contributors describe their work showing effective ways of supporting and helping them in their loss. Case Studies are sensitively given and there are moving accounts of individual, family, group and whole school work. |
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| How Hattie Hated Kindness |
By Margot Sunderland |
| ISBN: 978 0 86388 461 0 |
| A hopeful story about a little girl who is on a self-destruct path, pushing everybody away who wants to be with her. To read to or be read by all age groups who struggle to socialise and accept that they deserve to be happy. Beautifully illustrated and will strike a chord with many adults and children alike. |
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| The Day the Sea Went Out and Never Came Back |
By Margot Sunderland |
| ISBN: 978-0-86388-463-4 |
| A beautiful, metaphorical example of grief with hope. To accompany helping children with loss but can be read on its own. This is a story which uses the sea as a metaphor for death. It is about a small creature that loves the sea and is devastated one day when then sea appears to have just disappeared. The creature waits and longs for its return only to be profoundly disappointed to realise that it has gone and will never be coming back. It is a story of hope as the creatures emotions are explored and worked through via establishing a memorial. |
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| Helping Children with Loss |
By Margot Sunderland |
| ISBN: 978-0-86338467-2 |
| A fantastic resource that explores all aspects of loss from a child’s perspective and provides examples of creative ways of working. Comes with an additional storybook, ‘The Day the Sea Went Out and Never Came Back’ which can be purchased and used individually. |
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| Remember Me Too |
By Penhaligon’s Friends |
| ISBN: 0-9550757-1-8 |
| A concise information pack designed to provide guidance for schools and early year settings when dealing with childhood bereavement, loss and critical incidents. It provides a practical guide in dealing with the many responses publically to such trauma and provides a frame of reference on how to respond sensitively, appropriately and sometimes with authority. An excellent resource. |
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| Grief Counselling & Grief Therapy |
By J William Worden |
| ISBN: 0-422-78620-9 |
| Another classic – Worden takes the reader through the tasks of mourning and procedure that can be useful in assisting those experiencing grief. A frame of reference on which to relate to and build upon. |
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| Continuing Bonds |
By Klass, Silverman & Nickman |
| ISBN: 1-56032-336-1 Hardback |
| A study influenced by research in broadening the concepts of healthy grief for the individual, as opposed to the imposing of values from society. This book gives voice to an emerging consensus among bereavement scholars that our understanding of the grief process needs to be expanded. A valuable an interesting reflection on how we are more than the sum of our parts and that simply cutting ties with our deceased loved ones is outdated and impossible. |
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| Continuing Bonds |
By Klass, Silverman & Nickman |
| ISBN: 1-56032-339-6 Paperback |
| A study influenced by research in broadening the concepts of healthy grief for the individual, as opposed to the imposing of values from society. This book gives voice to an emerging consensus among bereavement scholars that our understanding of the grief process needs to be expanded. A valuable an interesting reflection on how we are more than the sum of our parts and that simply cutting ties with our deceased loved ones is outdated and impossible. |
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| The Good Grief Guide |
By Michael Dunn |
| ISBN: 1-85703-641-7 |
| A really good resource to dip into and out of. Well worth a read. Provides strategies for professionals to implement, which assist children of all ages who have been bereaved in journeying through all of the emotions and issues experienced with exercise that also address hope for the future and being at peace with the past. |
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| Who Dies? |
By Stephen Levine |
| ISBN: 0-7171-3121-1 |
| An investigation of conscious living and conscious dying. A really interesting and thought provoking book that opens the mind on many levels. It addresses itself to the many aspects of the dying process with refreshing insight, candour and lightness. It divests the incredible melodrama called death of its frightful power, supplanting fear with calm in a simple, compassionate and understandable manner. |
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| Talking with Children and Young People about Death and Dying |
By Mary Turner |
| ISBN: 1-85302-563-1 |
| This workbook has been designed for support workers to select appropriately for each individual child’s responses in an engaging manner. It is presented in a format that can be read by both child and adult simultaneously; every page is illustrated with pictures that both hold the child’s interest and facilitate communication. Another superb resource, well worth purchasing. |
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| Out of the Blue |
By Julie Stokes & Paul Oxley |
| ISBN: 1-903458-71-4 |
| Making memories last when someone has died through creative means. This little book offers some of the more classic ways to encourage a young person to explore their feelings and memories in a creative way. Comes with templates for the activities. |
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| Loss & Learning Disability |
By Noelle Blackman |
| ISBN: 1-903269-02-4 |
| Observations of grief, based on research and long-term work, this book combines a resume of the theoretical considerations concerning loss, grief and morning with particular reference to those with learning disabilities. This is a compassionate account of how people who are boxed under this heading a more likely to be given less consideration. A good source of information for people working with or training others to assist those with learning disability. |
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| Good Grief Over 11’s & Adults |
By Barbara Ward |
| ISBN: 9-781853-023248 |
| Exploring feelings, loss and death with under elevens. This book provides excellent ideas and guidance for helping grieving children in a sensitive and imaginative way. It has been designed to be utilised by children with a multitude of abilities and backgrounds, encouraging improvisation and discussion. |
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| Silly Billy |
By Anthony Browne |
| ISBN: 978-1-4063-0576-0 |
| A story of a little boy who worries about everything until his gran gives him a solution in the form of worry dolls. However Billy begins to worry of the effect, telling all his worries to the worries dolls will have on them so he decides to make a worry doll for his worry dolls and can at last |
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| Draw on Your Relationships |
By Margot Sunderland |
| ISBN: 978-0-86388-629-4 |
| An understandable, workable and superb book with photocopiable activities to assist young people to explore and reflect on their relationships with other humans. A must for any professional working in the arena of helping children explore the vast array of relationships they have, and the impact those relationships have on them. Also empowers the child to assess the healthiness of each relationship. |
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| Ruby and the Rubbish Bin |
By Margot Sunderland |
| ISBN: 978-0-86388-462-7 |
| A sad but inspiring story of a girl who feels she is not worth anything finding hope through someone else’s eyes. Ruby is convinced she is not worth the ground she stands on until a supporting adult invests in some quality time with her. Slowly Ruby begins to feel and understand her worth. |
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| Helping Children With Low Self-Esteem |
By Margot Sunderland |
| ISBN: 978 86388 466 5 |
| Provides a brilliant overview and lots of carefully designed photocopiable activities to facilitate the needs of young people with low self-esteem. Exercises are extremely adaptable and can be accommodated to all age groups and abilities. Comes with the storybook ‘Ruby and the Rubbish Bin’, which can be purchased separately. |
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| Seeing Red |
By J Simmonds |
| ISBN: 0-86571-483-5 |
| Seeing Red is an anger management and peace-making curriculum for children between the ages of 6 – 12. Providing thought-provoking strategies for adults supporting angry young people to utilise. An excellent resource that is not based upon making a child feels shamed and guilty about their responses. |